Memories of Paul Harvey

I have a strong sense memory of sitting alongside my father in his beat-up Chevy pick-up truck sometime in the early- to mid-1970s.

Dashboard and interior of a 1967 Chevrolet C10 Custom by Mr.choppers - Own work, CC BY-SA 3.0, https://commons.wikimedia.org/w/index.php?curid=127679891

Perhaps 1973, and I was eight. There’s a smell I can almost recreate. A smell of dust and warmth. A comforting aroma that feels like a masculine space, a paternal space. My mother never drove this truck (as far as I remember), only my father. And it felt special to be sitting on that bench front seat heading out wherever.

On multiple occasions we would listen to the radio as we drove. Dad’s program of choice was Paul Harvey. As a kid I was charmed by Harvey’s “rest of the story” schtick. It felt like peering behind the scenes. Only as an adult do I realize that Harvey was a deeply conservative commentator.

Paul Harvey was a success. In the year 2000, at the age of 82, he signed a $100 million dollar contract with ABC radio. Imagine that. Someone 82 years old signing such an enormous contract in the age of the internet boom. He was a singular voice and held one of the highest profile radio slots for a half century.

He was also, something I didn’t realize as a child, ultra-right-wing. He palled around with J. Edgar Hoover, Joseph McCarthy, and Billy Graham.

But the reason I’m thinking of him now is because of his signature way of reading advertisements. In his show he’d move seamlessly from telling a story about someone in the news to telling a story about a commercial product, using the same cadence and tone. When he started telling a story it was difficult to determine if it was going to be a news story or a commercial.

As a child I didn’t understand the conservative subtext (supratext?) of his commentary but I did recognize that his method of delivering commercials was…off. I consumed enough television and radio as a child that I understood there to be a fundamental division between commercials and content. Harvey’s method of commercial delivery always bugged me a little. Even as a child it felt wrong somehow.

I write about this today because of my New Year’s resolution to listen more. As I listen to more podcasts I notice that multiple podcasters read the commercials. Some separate the content from the commercial more clearly than others, but some kind of blend the two together. Every time I hear this I flash back to those moments in the truck when I’m thinking – you can’t do that. People might get confused between the story and the commercial and believe (so my childish mind thought) that the hyperbole about the quality of the goods or services for sale are “true” “news”.

Looking back at my childhood and adolescence I’m not sure how I became so adamantly anti-commercial. I know it was solidified in my late adolescent punk-rock years and lingers with me today. One reason I’m so attracted to scholarly journals is because of their resistance to commercials and advertisements. Ditto with Wikipedia. In fact, one of the reasons I haven’t watched news on television for the last 35 years is because I believe commercially supported news is suspect. Unfortunately, there’s no way to escape it. All the major news platforms are dependent on news. Even my local, and ostensibly non-profit Tampa Bay Times*, is overly dependent on advertising.

So, while I’ve learned to accept that advertising is inextricably intertwined with the news ecosystem, and most of the recorded entertainment ecosystem, I still find it jarring when I hear a podcaster (to clarify, these are mostly comedy podcasters) start telling a story that turns out to be a commercial. And every time this happens I flash back to Paul Harvey and sitting in that Chevy pick-up truck and running some errand with my dad.

*The Tampa Bay Times is owned by the non-profit Poynter Institute.

It’s a New Year! So, ummm, there’s that…

It’s time for New Year’s resolutions. I love New Year’s resolutions!

Around this time last year I resolved to make 2024 my Year of the Gothic. That worked out magnificently.

In 2023 I resolved to give myself permission. Mostly it was about giving myself permission to work on my mental and emotional health. An important resolution that’s still having a positive impact on my life.

And the year before that I resolved to have afternoon tea. I no longer have afternoon tea but I’m now a regular consumer of sleepytime tea as part of my nightly wind-down and sleep hygiene.

Once upon a time I rolled my eyes at New Year’s resolutions but then I had an epiphany. What if, I wondered… what IF I decided to use my resolution for something FUN. Instead of joining a gym I’d never visit, or beating myself up over not losing weight like I promised, what if I did something like promise to…eat more pie!

And so that epiphany changed my life. (That year I ate a lot of pie. It was great!)

This year my resolution is to listen. I am not into podcasts or audiobooks. I also haven’t been listening to music the last few years as much as I once did. This year I’m firing up the podcasts and working audiobooks into my reading lists.

In addition to the actual physical act of listening with my ears, I also want to listen more broadly to voices of those who do not look like me.

A few years ago (maybe 10?) I realized that most of my life I read books and watched movies that were by and/or about white men. Mostly white, cishet, American men. And while these men may have written sympathetically about women, immigrants, Black people, and might be a part of a minority group (perhaps coming from an impoverished background, or identifying as lgbtqia+) I wondered how my view of the world might change if I were diligent about reading works BY black women instead of ABOUT black women; if I read work BY trans people instead of ABOUT trans people. If I watched movies with an all-black cast, even if it wasn’t critically acclaimed by white gatekeepers.

That was one of the best decisions I ever made.

I’m doubling down this year.

So, what else can I do this year?

While I don’t consider the following resolutions, I suppose I will strive to blog more, bike more, get out of the house more often, drink a lot more water, look for ways to get more involved in local community stuff, cut down on screen time, continue working on My Gothic Body (which at this point is less Gothic and more a meditation about masculinity and health), eat right, meditate, be as generous and kind as I know how to be, and seek out ways to push back against the cruelty and dishonesty that saturates our world. And, to that end, also endeavor to keep the doomscrolling to a minimum.

As for today, I’m traveling tomorrow and so at this moment I’m taking a break from scrubbing the bathroom (we have a dog sitter staying here while we’re away) and listening to an episode of The American Vandal about philanthrocapitalism at HBCUs.

In the midst of all the madness I hope we all are able to find some respite, some happiness and joy, some resilience, some courage, and some peace. And, wtf, maybe some love while we’re at it.

Happy New Year, y’all! 2025 is here whether we’re ready or not.

My MAGA Acquaintance

I’m very happy inside my anti-maga bubble. I have no problematic relatives (that I speak to) and my friends largely share my progressive/liberal outlook. I work in an environment that is congenial to those who share my values. But, I also work on a medium-sized campus and this is Florida, so I’m aware that not everyone I work with, or near, shares my politics.

Last week a friendly acquaintance came out to me as a Trump supporter. This is someone I’m friendly with and that I see relatively often, though we rarely speak more than a quick exchange of pleasantries. I was honestly taken off-guard and we spent some time processing. For him, it was kind of like coming out of the closet. He is surrounded by people who voted for Harris and he is hesitant to share his politics.

Since we had been talking about gender studies at the beginning of our conversation all I could think to ask is how he could support such cruelty to trans populations.

Without recreating the whole conversation, here’s what I gleaned:

  • This person is a low-information voter, claiming they don’t follow politics (though they’re clearly familiar with right-wing talking points).
  • They think Trump doesn’t lie and that his pompous blowhard bluster is amusing and is funny because it tweaks the libs.
  • That he will fix the economy.

It was pretty easy to shoot down the points about lying and the economy. And I pushed back on a few other points until it finally became evident the true reason for his support.

  1. He is a forced birth maximalist. It doesn’t really matter what Trump does because his presidency is the best path to ending abortion in the US.

I still see him on campus, we still exchange friendly greetings, and we haven’t spoken of politics since that revelation. (Or anything else, really. Like I mentioned, we only speak at any length a couple of times a year.)

Not really a point to this story other than my own realization (which, of course, I already knew) that they’re everywhere! Hiding in plain sight! And there’s a non-trivial number that will never be persuaded by any kind of evidence, logic, facts, or reason.

The Ugly Chickens!

I’m grateful for George RR Martin for producing this. And happy that Howard got a chance to see it before he died. Waldrop has been one of my faves for 35+ years.

And there are more Waldrop stories in the pipeline.

The Ugly Chickens, starring Felicia Day, has been shot alongside adaptations of Waldrop’s short stories Mary-Margaret Road Grader and Night of the Cooters.”

via The Hollywood Reporter

List of Christmas Movies and Shows We’ve Watched Between 2019 and 2023

235 titles in alphabetical order. Includes movies and TV shows/episodes. I’ve removed the ‘A’ and ‘The’ at the beginning of titles. This is the complete list to accompany the post Christmas Movie Watch.

Christmas movie watching season begins the day after Thanksgiving and ends January 6 (twelve days after Christmas).

1000 Miles From Christmas (2012)
12 Christmas Wishes For My Dog (2011)
12 Dates of Christmas all episodes, all seasons (2020)
13 Slays Till Christmas (2020)
42 Days of Christmas Movies
8-Bit Christmas (2021)
AD/BC: A Rock Opera (2004)
All Creatures Great and Small (2022)
All is Bright (2013)
All the Creatures Were Stirring (2018)
An Elf’s Story: The Elf on the Shelf (short) (2011)
Anna & the Apocalypse (2017)
Apartment (1960)
Arthur Christmas (2011)
Babes in Toyland (1986)
Bad Moms Christmas (2017)
Bad Santa (2003)
Bakin It – TV Series
Batman Returns (1992)
Best Man Holiday (2013)
Best. Christmas. Ever. (2023)
Better Watch Out (2016)
Bishop’s Wife (1947)
Bitch Who Stole Christmas (2021)
Black Christmas (1974)
Black Christmas (2006)
Black Friday (2021) (is it a christmas movie, tho?)
Candy Cane Lane (2023)
Carol for Another Christmas (1964)
Castle for Christmas (2021)
Catfish Christmas (2022)
Christmas as Usual (2023)
Christmas Carol (1951)
Christmas Carol (1984)
Christmas Carol (TV series) (2019)
Christmas Chronicles (2018)
Christmas Chronicles 2 (2020)
Christmas Flow (didn’t finish) (2021)
Christmas Horror Story (2015)
Christmas House (2020)
Christmas House 2 (2021)
Christmas in Connecticut (1945)
Christmas Inheritance (2017)
Christmas is Cancelled (2021)
Christmas Karen (2022)
Christmas Movie Christmas (2019)
Christmas on the Farm (2021)
Christmas Prince (2017) the movie that sparked it all
Christmas Prince: The Royal Baby (2019)
Christmas Prince: The Royal Wedding (2018)
Christmas Set-up (2020)
Christmas Story Christmas (2022)
Christmas Tale (2008)
Christmas to Treasure (2022)
Christmas Train (2017)
Christmas Vacation (1989)
Christmas with the Kranks (2004)
Christmas With You (2022)
Cloudy with a Chance of Christmas (2022)
Cup of Cheer (2020)
Cupid for Christmas (2021)
Dash & Lily (2020)
Dashing in December (2020)
Dashing Through the Snow (2023)
Days of Our Lives: A Very Salem Christmas (2021)
Dean Martin Christmas Show (1968)
Deck the Halls (2006)
Designing Christmas (2022)
Dickensian (2015), Ep 9&10
Dickensian (2015), Ep. 8
Dickensian (2015), episode 2
Dickensian (2015), episode 3
Dickensian (2015), episode 4
Dickensian (2015), episode 5
Dickensian (2015), Episode 6
Dickensian (2015), Episode 7
Dickensian (2015), series, first episode
Die Hard (1988)
Dognapped: A Hound for the Holidays (2022)
Dolly Parton’s Christmas on the Square (2020)
Dolly Parton’s Mountain Magic Christmas (2022)
El Camino Christmas (2017)
Elf (2003)
Elves (2018)
Elves (Netflix Danish series) (2021)
ExMas (2023)
Falling for Christmas (2022)
Family Man (2000)
Family Stone (2005)
Family Switch (2023)
Fantasy Island: Welcome to the Snow Globe (2021)
Father Christmas is Back (2021)
Feast of the Seven Fishes (2023)
Four Christmases (2008)
Fred Claus (2007)
Friday After Next (2002)
Frosty the Snowman ()
Genie (2023)
Ghost Story for Christmas (series), ep. The Stalls of Barchester (197-)
Godmothered (2020)
Great British Baking Show: Holidays (2020)
Great Rupert (1950)
Gremlins (1984)
Hannah Waddingham: Home for Christmas (2023) (didn’t finish)
Hanukkah on Rye (2022)
Happiest Season (2020)
Haul Out the Holly (2022)
Hitched for the Holidays (2012)
Holdovers (2023)
Holidate (2020)
Holiday (1938)
Holiday Affair (1949)
Holiday Dating Guide (2022)
Holiday in the Vineyards (2023)
Holiday Shift (series), episode 1
Holiday Shift, episodes 2&3
Holiday Shift, final episode(s)
Holiday Sitter (2022)
Hollywood Christmas (2022)
Home Alone (1990)
Home for Christmas Season 2 (2020)
How the Grinch Stole Christmas (1966)
How the Grinch Stole Christmas (1969)
How to Ruin Christmas (Season 1 – 2)
I Believe in Santa (2022)
I Hate Christmas (), S2 Ep6
I Hate Christmas (2023), S2 Ep2
I Hate Christmas (2023), S2 Ep2
I Hate Christmas (series 2022)
I Hate Christmas (Series), (2023), episode 1
I Hate Christmas, S2 Ep3, December 23
Ice Harvest (2005)
Ideal Home (2018)
It Happened on Fifth Avenue (1947)
It’s a Wonderful Knife (2023)
It’s A Wonderful Life (1946)
It’s Beginning to Look a Lot Like Murder (2022)
It’s Christmas Carol (2012)
Jack Frost (1997)
Jack Frost (1998)
Jingle Bell Bride (2020)
Jingle Jangle: A Christmas Journey (2020)
Jinkx and Dela Christmas Show (2020)
Kacey Musgraves Christmas Show (2019)
Kiss Kiss Bang Bang (2005)
Klaus (2019)
Krampus (2015)
Ladies of the ‘80s: A Divas Christmas
Last Christmas (2019)
Last Holiday (2006)
Last Tango in Halifax Christmas Special (2017)
Let It Snow (2019)
Letters to Satan Claus (2020)
Librarians and Santa’s Midnight Run (2014)
Love Actually (2003)
Love Hard (2021)
Man Who Invented Christmas (2017)
Medea Christmas (2013)
Meet Me in Saint Louis (1944)
Menorah in the Middle (2022)
Merry Friggin’ Christmas (2014)
Merry Happy Whatever (2019), TV Series, episode 01
Merry Little Batman (2023)
Miracle on 34th Street (1947)
Miracle on 34th Street (1994)
Mistletoe & Menorahs (2019)
Mixed Nuts (1994)
Most Wonderful Time of the Year (2008)
Mr. Magoo’s Christmas Carol (1962)
Muppet Christmas Carol (1992)
Murder She Baked: A Plum Pudding Mystery
My Southern Family Christmas (2022)
Nasty Piece of Work (2019) (Blumhouse holiday Into the Dark series)
Naughty or Nice (2021)
New York Christmas Wedding (2020)
Night Before (2015)
Nightmare Before Christmas (1993)
No Sleep til Christmas (2018)
Noel Diary (2022)
Noelle (2019)
Once Upon a Christmas (2000)
One Magic Christmas (1985)
Pottersville (2017)
Preacher’s Wife (1996)
Princess Switch (2018)
Princess Switch 2 (2020)
Rare Exports: A Christmas Tale (2010)
Red Christmas (2016)
Rudolph the Red-nosed Reindeer (1964)
Sacrifice Games (2023)
Santa Camp (2022), documentary
Santa Claus is Comin’ to Town (1970)
Santa Clause (1994)
Santa Girl (2019)
Santa Inc. (2021)
Santa Jaws (2018)
Santa Stakeout (2021)
Santa Who? (2000)
Scrooge (1935)
Scrooge (1970)
Scrooged (1988)
Serendipity (2001)
Shared Rooms (2016)
Shop Around the Corner (1940)
Silent Night, Deadly Night (1984)
Silent Night, Deadly Night 3: Better Watch Out! (1989)
Silent Night, Deadly Night Part 2 (1987)
Single All the Way (2021)
Snow (2004)
Snow 2: Brain Freeze (2008)
Snow Globe Christmas (2013)
Spirited (2023)
Stopped – Da Kath and Kim Code (2005)
This Christmas (2007)
Trading Places (1983)
Trailer Park Boys: XMas Special (2004)
Treevenge (short) (2008)
Under the Christmas Tree (2021)
Unlikely Angel (1996)
Very Harold & Kumar Christmas (2011)
Very Murray Christmas (2015)
Very Sunny Christmas (2009)
Violent Night (2022)
While You Were Sleeping (1995)
White Christmas (1954)
White Reindeer (2013)
Who Killed Santa? A Murderville Murder Mystery (2022)
Winter Romance aka Colors of Love (watched 11/26) (2021)
Year Without a Santa Claus (1974)
Yoh! Christmas (2023), episode one
You Better Watch Out (aka Christmas Evil) (1980)
Your Christmas or Mine? (2022)
Your Christmas or Mine? 2 (2023)
Yule Log (2022)
Zoey’s Extraordinary Christmas (2021)

Christmas Movie Watch

I’m not sure if I’ve mentioned it on this blog but I have watched A LOT of Christmas movies. (I’ll append a partial list at the bottom of this post.) And, on Friday, I’ll start to watch more.

I haven’t always been this way. There was a time when I shunned everything Christmas. Just not my vibe.

So, how does something like this happen?

Our Christmas movie watching started in 2019 but it’s rooted in our movie watching habit which began in 1999.

One of the ways Jennifer and I bonded when we started dating is through movies. Friday night quickly became movie night when we dated (hmmm, now that I think about it, we started hanging out and watching movies before we started dating) in 1999 and it’s been a part of our routine for the last quarter century.

Some quick math. Watching 50 movies a year for 25 years equals 1250 movies. We haven’t watched a movie every single Friday night, but more often than not. And, we often watch movies even when it’s not Friday night. So, a conservative estimate is that we’ve watched more than 1300 movies together.

That’s a lot of movies.

We’ve watched entire horror franchises, we’ve selected performers and watched every movie in which they appeared. We’ve picked out directors and writers and watched everything they’ve done. We were once diligent about watching everything nominated in the major categories of the Academy Awards. We’ve gone through phases of watching classics, indies, international, animation, musicals, and all the genres. We watch highly recommended flicks and cringe-inducing schlock.

But not Christmas movies.

Until 2019.

It was the day before Christmas, or perhaps the day of or the day after. It was a cozy night and we were lazing in front of the television trying to decide what to watch. Netflix was pushing A Christmas Prince: The Royal Baby, and because it promised to be frothy and cozy, I suggested the first of the series — A Christmas Prince. It was cheesy and got us talking about classic Christmas movies and what we’d seen and what we hadn’t.

We made some idle plans to watch more Christmas movies. That same winter there was a BBC dark fantasy version of A Christmas Carol that I watched. In all, we watched eight or nine Christmas movies between Christmas eve and a few days after the start of the new year.

In a different timeline that was the end of it. But in this timeline, 2020 was a very special year.

By the time Thanksgiving rolled around in 2020 we were conditioned to stay inside. Covid deaths were high and there was a lot of uncertainty when and if a vaccine might be rolled out. Recalling the coziness of the previous year’s Christmas movie watching, combined with our past experience of immersing ourselves in particular genres or styles of movies, we decided to go all in on Christmas movies and Christmas shows.

It was a lot of fun. (Remember, we have a remarkable tolerance for cringe-inducing schlock.)

We watched about 40 movies between Thanksgiving and Epiphany (12 days after Christmas). And about 10 or 12 shows/episodes.

An aside. I grew up in a place with snow. As a child I built snowmen and lived through blizzards. One memorable winter, wind blew snow against the front of the house creating a drift that reached the roof. We had to exit through the back until we dug out the front door.

Here, in the semi-tropical weather of Florida, there are none of the environmental triggers I learned to associate with winter or Christmas. And so, Christmas time in Florida is weird to me. How can there be Christmas lights, Christmas music, AND I’m walking through the neighborhood in shorts and a t-shirt? It feels alien and wrong.

Watching Christmas movies helped Florida feel a little more winter-y, a little cozier in a time when we craved comfort and coziness.

So, we did it again in 2021.

This year will be our 5th year of Christmas movie/show binging. To this point we’ve watched approximately 235 shows and movies. Last year we watched about sixty shows/movies. So, if we do something similar this year, we’ll be pushing 300 by the time we wrap up in 2025.

That’s a lot of Christmas movies!

Here is a list of what we watched in the winter of 2020. I’ll post the entire list of 2019-2023 in a separate post. Here’s the complete list for 2019-2013.

Christmas Movie Watchlist 2020

Drama
Christmas in Connecticut (1945)
It’s A Wonderful Life (1946)
The Bishop’s Wife (1947)
It Happened on Fifth Avenue (1947)
Miracle on 34th Street (1947)
A Christmas Carol (1951)
The Apartment (1960)
Die Hard (1988)
Scrooged (1988)
The Muppet Christmas Carol (1992)
The Preacher’s Wife (1996)
The Family Man (2000)
Love Actually (2003)
This Christmas (2007)
A Christmas Tale (2008)
All is Bright (2013)
Ideal Home (2018)
Happiest Season (2020)
A New York Christmas Wedding (2020)

Horror
Black Christmas (1974)
You Better Watch Out (aka Christmas Evil) (1980)
Gremlins (1984)
Black Christmas (2006)
Red Christmas (2016)

Musical
Meet Me in Saint Louis (1944)
White Christmas (1954)
Scrooge (1970)
Anna & the Apocalypse (2017)

Comedy
The Great Rupert (1950)
Mixed Nuts (1994)
Elf (2003)
The Night Before (2015)
Cup of Cheer (2020)
Holidate (2020)
Letters to Satan Claus (2020)

Hallmark Style
Christmas Inheritance (2017)
A Christmas Movie Christmas (2019)
The Christmas House (2020)
The Christmas Set-up (2020)
Dashing in December (2020)

Variety Shows
A Very Murray Christmas (2015)
The Jinkx and Dela Christmas Show (2020)

Cartoon / Animations
The Year Without a Santa Claus (1974)
Klaus (2019)

Television Shows / Episodes
The Librarians and Santa’s Midnight Run (2014)
Last Tango in Halifax Christmas Special (2017)
Dash & Lily (2020)
Great British Baking Show: Holidays (2020)
Home for Christmas Season 2 (2020)

Replenished

The combination of the beginning of the semester, two hurricanes, and an anxiety-provoking election season left me feeling I was done with My Gothic Body. However, I’m now feeling much refreshed and have started back up on the writing. Looking forward to the long weekend.

The zero draft of My Gothic Body is about 10,000 words. I’m going to add another braid about representations of masculinity in mid-1970s television. In an utterly non-trivial way television shaped the way I understand what it means to be a man. Some representations I adopted, some I rejected, but all the TV men I watched helped shape the way I recognize the boundaries, parameters, and meaning of manhood.

It’s these ideas of masculinity (among others), ghosts, intangible forces that haunt my experience, that shape my reality, and contributed to the way I approach(ed) my health, which led to the kidney stone operations.

So, as I pursue this new draft I might drop some sections into the blog. Or not.

I’ve also decided to join Bluesky. Partly to see if judicious addition of a well-curated social media feed can help me navigate whatever is to come. (lol, or to see if I can find a way to distract me from writing!) I’m @patadave.bsky.social.

How did that whole ‘Gothic year’ turn out?

It turned out OK. I have a ton of notes, read a bunch of classic Gothic novels, closely annotated Mary Shelley’s Frankenstein, and started incorporating it into a longer work about my relation with my body. I’ve started piecing it all together into a longer project and with any luck I’ll start sharing chunks of it in the next couple of months.